Dare To Dream !

To dream is
Visionary;
To work is
Creativity;
To achieve is simply
Exhilarating!
Dare to dream!

Do you really dare to dream? We all like to let our imagination go from time to time and dream of a nice holiday, a new house or a better job. Sometimes we even dream of another life, a life in which we can truly be ourselves, that fits who we are or want to be. But usually this doesn’t get very concrete. Very quickly all sorts of obstacles pop up: not enough money, not enough time, pity that I didn’t take the right studies, and so on.

These obstacles come quite naturally, we don’t have to make an effort to generate them up. They are like a kind of mental ” stop” signs that suddenly appear everywhere. Obstacles often come in the form of a “yes, but”. “Yes, but I cannot just give up my job.”, ”Yes, but I won’t make any money that way.” or “Yes, but I can’t change myself.” These are often very stereotypical – obstacles obviously stand in the way of realizing our dreams, but what is worse, often they even make sure that we do not even really start dreaming.A person who dreams big is an ordinary person. What makes them extraordinary is that they find the courage, heart, and discipline to make that dream come true.
The problem is that we forget that we can do the same. Within each of us is a core of goodness, wisdom, and heart that has been there from the start. Yet as the years go by disappointment and criticism turn into fears, doubts, and anxieties that hide this essence.

Soon our spirit becomes hidden, and we can forget that it even exists. How do we break out? Well, the good news is that it doesn’t take years of therapy or digesting self-help books.

First THINK,

Second BELIEVE,

Third DREAM,

Finally DARE.

You don’t have to understand your pain or your past to break out. Just dare to dream big and then commit to making it happen and having it matter. Your commitment doesn’t care about your self-doubt or that you’re too busy — it hasn’t got time for that stuff. It’s fully engaged in making your dream come true.

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Why Dare To Dream Big?

Dreaming big is the fastest track to personal transformation and learning to make the next big dream come true.Besides we’ve been wasting a lot of time playing the victim and pointing the finger, but it’s not making a bit of difference.

On the other hand, there’s nothing better than the feeling you get when you achieve something you really didn’t think was possible, is there?

So if you dare to dream big, what would the dream be? I bet you know the answer. I encourage you to stretch as far as you can imagine — not only will you survive, you will thrive because when you take a stand the world around you lines up with you.

As you think about your next dream, here’s some inspiration to help you along the way.

I’d love to hear about your big dream. Leave a comment below, or write directly to me on gautami.bhawsar2017@gmail.com.

Tips for making Small Talk Meaningful

As we move into the season of new — new classes, new meetings, new opportunities — there’s also that looming feeling that we’re going to have to make it: small talk. And our stomach tightens and our toes curl … just a little bit.

Regardless of how extroverted or people-oriented someone might be, there’s always some skepticism surrounding small talk, I’ve found. So today, I’m showing you how to help turn skepticism into rich soil for quality conversation.

Happy chatting!

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We like things large. For instance, we talk about the benefits of having a big heart. We love people with larger-than-life personalities. We are told to dream big. And subsequently, the idea of making it big becomes all the more appealing. Small, on the other hand, isn’t a quality we actively seek because there is a connotation that small is somehow less than. But that’s not true.

With most of the things in life you have to start small. Like small talk. It is the daily seed we plant that has the potential to bloom. But no seed becomes a flower overnight.Good things come in small packages, and small talk is one small step in the right direction — the path of real, deep connection that can bring us hope, confidence and happiness.

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We get across these interactions daily — at the bank, the movies, our first day of school, college or office,when we get into an Uber ride. We ask first-tier, easy come, easy go questions and as such have conversations in passing. The kind we don’t expect to have consequence. The ones we can move through without giving anything of ourselves. These conversations have some value, seeing that it is always better to be polite. You never know when a simple smile or brief conversation might drastically change the course of a stranger’s day.

Then there are second-tier talks. The chitchat we have on first dates or coffee with new friends: Whats your relationship like with your family? How long was your last relationship? Ever been to any concert? These are handshake-before-the-hug conversations, a testing of the water. If it’s warm we might be compelled to jump in — if it’s cold, we back out slowly.

Finally, there is third-tier talk. Big talk. Real talk. The unexpected conversations that stick with us. Most of us try to avoid the introductory interactions. Just “chatting” makes us uncomfortable.Why the butterflies that arise during the compulsory work hour where you don’t know anyone, or  when you sit down next to a stranger at a dinner party?

Some of us, aware of our great fear, might even go  to practice in the bathroom mirror what we might say to someone over a simple coffee or in an Interview and as such try to come up with solutions to “surviving” small talk.

However, “surviving” small talk implies that it doesn’t matter — that we should walk away from conversations unharmed, unaffected, but let’s stop thinking of small talk as a means to an end. Let’s make it a beginning. How do we do that? We practice the art of small talk until we become our very own Expert.

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  1. Ask WHY and HOW Questions.

When you ask a “What” question, chances are you will get a simple answer, but when you ask a “Why” question, you explore a person’s underlying motivation. For example, “Why did you think that happened?” will give  a more thoughtful response than, “What happened?” Every question you ask has the potential to narrow or expand the dialogue. “What” question convey a genuine interest in the other person’s experience.

2. Don’t be  Afraid to be Honest.

It is easy to feel disconnected and misunderstood — especially given the pace of social media. Honesty requires that we slow down. We must allow our thoughts the space they need to be voiced. If someone asks you about your day, they’ve given you that gift in asking. If you have the ability to be honest, the conversation that could follow might just change your whole day, week or month. Whether it is because you form an exciting new bond or because this person has a unique take on something you’re dealing with, honesty allows space for fresh perspectives. Don’t run from this.

3.Your body says it all.

This can sometimes be more important than your words. Body language cues like eye contact (and not looking over their shoulder), sincere nodding, and leaning in communicate interest. Smile, uncross your arms, pay attention. Nothing kills a pleasant conversation like feeling the other person doesn’t care about what you’re saying.

 

STAY TUNED…!

 

 

 

First Impression- (2)

Thanks for the Overwhelming response to my first Blog of First Impression.

It motivated me alot to write the second part of first Impression.

So ready to know more about first Impression…So You all understood what is First Impression is all about, Right?

Let’s have a look on the Tips which will help you to build a brilliant first Impression in all aspects of Life.

  • Be mindful of your Body Language and Posture – 

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  • Effective body language goes beyond simply standing up straight and having a firm handshake — although those things are definitely important, too. When you’re meeting someone for the first time, keep your posture open — don’t tightly cross your arms or legs, don’t ball your hands into fists, and don’t hunch over in your seat. Lean in when you talk to show you’re actively listening and engaged in the conversation. And don’t be afraid to take up some space at the table, either. If you normally use hand gestures or move around to communicate, don’t hold back. These nonverbal cues can make a powerful subconscious impact, so be aware of your body language and posture during meetings and in general.

 

  • Modulate your Pitch and tone of voice- 

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  • A high-pitched tone of voice can make you seem childish or nervous — especially if you tend to “uptalk” or use a rising inflection at the end of your sentences.Not sure if you’re guilty of this? Try practicing your presentations or recording yourself reading aloud. You’d be surprised at how different you sound to others versus in your own head.On the other hand, those who speak fast are considered to be more confident according to the research.Avoid filler words such as “um,” “ah,” “like,” and other similar phrases whenever possible, as it shows hesitation.

 

  • Choose your words wisely-

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  • Words matter even more than you think. Positive and persuasive words and phrases will often open doors and make people feel comfortable in your presence, which can ultimately make them more willing to work with you.

 

  • Dress the Part-

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  • Regardless of how little you personally care about fashion or style, what you wear matters. While you want to look clean and neat, it’s also important to match or slightly exceed the relative level of formality of the person or business you are meeting with — whether that is business formal, highly casual, or something in between.

You are your Brand so making sure that your look communicates your best self is IMPORTANT.

  • Be Authentic

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  • When you’re meeting someone for the first time, don’t try to be someone you’re not. If you don’t know the answer to something they ask, don’t fake it. The ability to lean into your weaknesses shows that you are self-aware.

 

  • Make a connection-

Man-Shaking-Hands-02Pay close attention to who you’re meeting with for the first time and try to forge a connection based on what they share with you.

First Impression.

You meet women at a party and think that you have a good conversation , But when you later send her a text, she doesn’t respond.

You go into a job interview feeling confident and leave feeling like you aced it. But while you keep looking at your phone, expecting a callback, it never comes.

You meet a guy at a party you feel you have a lot in common with and could become a good friend. But at the end of the night, you don’t exchange information in order to get together again.

Have situations like these ever happened to you? From your end, you feel like the interaction went well, but it doesn’t seem like the other person felt the same connection. It’s confusing and frustrating.Or maybe you actually rarely feel like your encounters with new people go well in the first place. You often feel awkward when meeting new folks, and thus aren’t particularly surprised when they aren’t interested in getting to know you better.

Either way, the issue may have to do with the first impression you give other people.

You may not have ever thought too much about your first impression. Maybe you think changing yours would mean acting fake, or that judging someone at a glance is superficial and inaccurate anyway.

Today we’ll clear up some common misconceptions about first impressions, and discuss why mastering the art of making a good one is not only crucial for romantic, professional, and social success, but can actually help you be more authentic with others.

 Your whole life, you’ve heard that first impressions are important, and that you never get a second chance to make one.When you meet someone new, people have already decided on what you’re like before you’ve said anything beyond your initial introduction.Not only are first impressions registered with lightning speed, but they last a surprisingly long time. People tend to lend more weight to the things they learn initially about someone, rather than the information they take in later.

You Never Get A Second Chance To Make A First Impression.

 

KEY INGREDIENTS FOR MAKING A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION:

  • Clothing.
  • Grooming.
  • Body Language.
  • Communication.

 

Stay Tuned…